Now the new school year’s back in full swing, many families are welcoming the return of routine. But for some – especially neurodivergent children such as those with autism or ADHD – this transition brings stress, anxiety, and emotional overwhelm. We asked Leanne Cooper-Brown, Clinical Director and neurodevelopmental lead at Clinical Partners, for advice on how to help.
“Transitions can be difficult for any child, but especially for neurodivergent children who rely on predictability and routine,” begins Leanne. “Parents need to recognise these signs not as ‘bad behaviour’, but as signals of stress that need support. For neurodivergent children, even small changes feel huge. If a timetable shifts or a teacher uses a different routine, that unpredictability can be very destabilising. What looks like resistance or withdrawal is often them struggling to cope.”
Recognising when a child is struggling
Parents should be alert to subtle changes in behaviour: irritability, emotional meltdowns, or withdrawing from family life are all common signs, with sudden changes in sleep or appetite also indicating underlying stress. “This doesn’t mean your child is failing,” continues Leanne. “They’re signals they’re working hard to adapt, and may need extra understanding, patience and reassurance. Here’s some simple tips to help you both cope.”
Re-establish routines early
“Neurodivergent children thrive on predictability. Setting regular bedtimes, consistent mealtimes, and clear school-night routines gives a sense of security when everything else feels new.”
Prepare the night before
“Simple habits – like laying out uniforms, packing bags or checking the timetable – can transform stressful mornings. A calmer start sets the tone for the day. If parents are relaxed, this contributes to a calmer environment.”
Break mornings into small steps
“Rather than focusing on the daunting goal of ‘getting to school,’ help children tackle one task at a time, like getting dressed or brushing their teeth. Visual checklists can also help younger children feel in control.”
Create decompression time
“Many children come home emotionally drained, so allow 30 minutes of downtime – whether that’s reading or simply sitting quietly – to allow them to reset. You can also reduce sensory demands like closing the curtains or dimming light.”
Use visual tools
“Timetables and planners provide clarity and reduce anxiety for neurodivergent children. Visual supports take away the pressure of remembering everything and make routines feel achievable.”
Encourage physical activity
“Movement regulates stress hormones and boosts concentration. A short walk can be as effective as structured sports. They don’t always need clubs: sometimes it’s about unstructured play that lets them move freely.”
Stay connected with school
“Open dialogue with teachers is key. Share what strategies work well at home so that they can be mirrored in the classroom. This consistency across environments helps children feel supported rather than misunderstood.”
When to seek further support
Most children adjust within the first few weeks, but for some, the stress may linger or worsen. If anxiety or behavioural challenges begin to significantly disrupt daily life, parents are encouraged to seek help.
“Remember, if your child is consistently overwhelmed or their wellbeing is suffering, it’s important not to wait,” finishes Leanne. Speaking with your GP is a good first step and they will be able to signpost to relevant services.”
